When the President delivered his election speech, he made it a point to say that "he wouldn't be the man he is today without the woman who agreed to marry him." Women love to hear such sentiments, but it would be helpful if men would elaborate. What did the President mean exactly? What little I know of him, if he had the time to, he would have elaborated. It's the same when a man tells a woman he loves her with nothing to reinforce it. I tell my daughters not to let men tell them they love them without giving them at least five reasons why they do. This information lets us know what to do more of and, in some cases, less of. I don't discriminate. It's the same for women as it is for men. Don't let your mate get away with a cliche or some cheap three-letter phrase without something to back it up in an attempt to avoid having to engage in involved dialogue. I know this is difficult for most men because they are "get to the (end of the) point" creatures who try to avoid deep conversations at any cost. But that does nothing to enhance or reinforce a relationship, nor does it facilitate in lowering the divorce rate.
Communication or the inability to do so is one of the top ten causes of divorce. We are the only species that talks to each other without effective communication. To consider yourself an effective communicator you must listen more than you talk so that when it's your turn to speak, you'll have an intelligent response. You should know what your point or request is and why you're requesting before you present it. I've always said that you can say whatever you want to say but take care in how you say it. You may want to tell your mate that you love her. Saying "I love you (expletive)" isn't acceptable. Or you may want to tell you mate that he has bad breath. Saying "Babe, your breath smells like (expletive)" is also not acceptable. It's all in the delivery. If you want a favorable outcome (and you do) then you need to have a favorable presentation. Say what you mean and mean what you say every time, gently and concisely and you'll be effective and achieve effective communication.
So the next time you want to attribute the kind of person you are to your mate, concisely give them reasons why you think so and don't repeat any of the reasons.
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