Do YOU Agree?

    “A woman who truly loves you will be mad at you for so many things but will always stick around” -Trey Songz

I found this quote on Twitter. At first, I thought it was the sweetest thing because it was from Trey Songz but then I sat and thought about it. It’s not cute! It’s not nice at all! It’s basically a smokescreen for saying that women should be a doormat for a man that she loves. I hope that this wasn't an original quote from him, but it wouldn't surprise me if it wasn't. Don’t get me wrong I have nothing against Trey Songz; I’m sure no other woman in the world does either – but come on!  Sadly in some cases his quote is a true statement, some women think that they are supposed to stick around and be the “ride or die” for their man- but is that really true? My most recent relationship shared this same pattern.  Every other week it was a different girl he was allegedly dealing with, and most of the time when I talked to him about it- he either told me don’t worry about it or just laughed and told me it was nothing serious.  I somehow convinced myself that it was nothing serious, because we were always together and I was the person he came home to, I couldn't see pass the affection, attention and the charm. At least until it was too late, I called myself telling a family member about my prince charming and she surprisingly told me she knew exactly who he was and she had felt the same way about him! At this point I felt almost physically ill; she actually still kept an old picture of him and her in her cell phone. I knew from that day on, he loved my loyalty to him but he wasn't returning the favor, I woke up before I fell to hard.  The sad part is, I knew how I felt in my mind but after constant confrontation after confrontation he was very convincing. Through some friends of mines, I finally found what my breaking point was- I met his son’s mother! She was an exact carbon copy of me!  It was like someone hit me with a ton of bricks. I had no beef with her and I was aware that he had a son.  I wanted to talk to her so bad but I knew I didn't need to because I could tell our stories were somehow the same.  I could no longer try to convince myself that I had to stick around, and in preparation of me cleansing myself mentally of him- I received a phone call a little after five am saying that he wouldn't be in my life for the next five years.Constant letters and phone calls go unanswered, in my eyes he is nonexistent, and I won’t allow anyone to tear me down in the name of a cheap pawn called “Love”.